The Duggar Family of TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting have been on television for over ten years now. People love them or hate them. Now the latest news is Josh Duggar was guilty of child molestation when he was a child himself. I read quite a few of the articles and some of the “hate” articles that are quick to follow whenever anyone in the limelight gets caught doing something guilty.
Now, the latest news is that TLC has removed the show from their schedule. While it is no surprise because we live in a society filled with knee jerk reactions, it still disappoints me. Why does it come down to everyone trying to please everyone. It isn’t possible!
I want to break down some of the stuff I found out about regarding this story and give my take on it.
Josh Duggar was 14 when all of this happened. 14 twelve years ago is not the same as 14 year olds today. According to the stories, some of his sisters and others were affected. Other stories say it was just his sisters. Then another story says it happened more than during just one time and affected Jim Holt’s run for the senate. So many different stories…..you have to wonder WHAT is the truth and what is fabricated to make for a better story. The story is that he fondled (not raped) the girls while they were sleeping. Does this make him a child molester or a curious, horny teenager who took advantage of the situation around him and explored with the girls around him. Yes, it is horrible that it was his sisters along with others, I won’t deny that, but again, he was 14. He recognized it was wrong and he admitted it to his parents when asked. He didn’t lie, he didn’t deny it. At 14, to recognize he had done something horrible and to want to take ownership of it says a lot.
His parents, being parents, did what they thought was best to help their son. Did they handle it correctly? Honestly, who are we to say yes or no? What parent doesn’t go above and beyond to help a child in trouble? Did they choose protecting their son over protecting their daughters? No one knows. There has been speculations that they stuck to the teaching where women are submissive so they had to just accept his apology, no matter what. Perhaps that type of teaching doesn’t work for everyone, but it does work for some. Who are we to question whether they forgave him because of their teachings or they forgave him because he openly asked for their forgiveness. When someone apologizes SINCERELY, each person has the right to accept it or not. It isn’t our place to speculate WHY they accepted it. I’m sure many readers would admit a family member has done something wrong to another family member on one occasion or another and had to apologize.
I personally know women who are HAPPY to be in a submissive relationship and it isn’t based on religion, it is based on choice. They are happy, healthy, and do not feel abused. Take the word “Religion” out of it and no one seems to have a problem with it or seem to even realize it is happening, but the minute you put the “religion” label on it, then people add hate to it. I have my own thoughts on organized religion but it doesn’t mean I automatically think everyone is wrong because their beliefs are not necessarily the same as mine.
They took Josh to a state trooper who gave him a “stern talking to” and sent him on his way. While I agree this may seem strange, for anyone who is familiar with Arkansas, and how much it has changed over the last 15 years, you really wouldn’t be surprised. Add to the fact the state trooper Josh was taken to is now in jail himself for child pornography isn’t the Duggar’s fault! I can not believe they would be ok with someone who was into child pornography. It is just another example of how everything handled in this case may not have been the best way, but not due to the Duggar’s actions.
The parents discussed it with their church elders who gave them advice. Did they give them poor advice? Again, I’m not saying it is right or wrong, but the parents WENT and sought advice and then followed the advice. Who isn’t guilty of going to someone we trust for advice and was given bad advice, yet we started to follow it or DID follow it. They sought advice from those they thought would be helpful to them. Clearly they didn’t hide this, it seems, by all counts, to be pretty common knowledge to those in their circle. That doesn’t sound like parents who are trying to sweep it under the rug and make it disappear. Did they want it out and discussed all the time? Of course not! Who would want a family’s dark moments discussed over and over again? NO ONE!
I see posts who complain about Josh Duggar being around his three children and everyone should be worried. Are you kidding me? He isn’t a pedophile!!! He didn’t go after pre-pubescent girls when he was 14. It was girls his age. It is that kind of thinking that truly brings harm to others. That type of thinking who gets the emotionally minded fired up to take dangerous actions because they can not think for themselves and just act on emotions.
One last thing I read that made me laugh is that Mama June of Honey Boo Boo threatened to sue TLC if they didn’t cancel 19 Kids and Counting because their show was canceled……ummmmm how about the difference is one was a CONVICTED CHILD MOLESTER….that means the adult sought out children. Not QUITE the same thing! Come on, we are such a litigious country.
Do I think the Duggar family is perfect? No, of course not. What family is? Do I believe they are above being held responsible for their actions? No, of course not. I don’t agree with their beliefs towards gay marriages and I personally believe every Christian would be accepting of gay marriages if they looked at it like I wrote here……but at the end of the day, whether I agree with them or not, I don’t believe they deserve the HATEFUL comments towards them, in this latest situation or in any of the others.
TLC shouldn’t pull the show in a knee jerk reaction. If their followers CHOOSE to not watch because of this, then TLC can not bring them on for another season, but it should be left to the ratings, not to the haters.